To Love Again

There's no right schedule on when to love again. Nor is there a right formula on not committing the same mistakes. Because life as we know it, is full of surprises.

We may end up crying one moment, then loving again that same person the next time around. We may bitterly swear we forever won't love again, then comes a seemingly perfect person swooning us off our feet. We may post millions of anti-love Facebook status, then be the one to write love letters and love songs when that fateful day comes. Again, life is full of surprises.

Only we can answer our questions on the complex beauty of love. And no, we must not base our decisions on turnaround of relationships of people close to us: breakups, broken families, third parties and irreconcilable differences. Because each man is unique. Each man has a different story.

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So it's up to us to take that leap in a bungee jump - or sit across coffee shops pretending not to care, to take that domestic or international flight to see that person - or stay at home, watch movies, eat fries and ice cream and repeat the same routine, to give that first call or SMS to try to reconnect and give the relationship one last try - or forever be in unserious relationships because of the fear of commitment or the feel of sweet revenge (even when that's a different person and we just generalized).

It's up to us to lower down our walls and welcome love with surprises, to reconsider the situation and eat down our pride, to set aside that scar or remember that scar as contributory to our present self, to not wait for the so-called 3-month-rule that we only learned from Popoy and Basha, to love again, get hurt, and yet still love again.

And when we love again, we must bear in mind that we will not be sailing calm waves, watching amazing sunsets, pretty butterflies and beautiful rainbows, nor will it be strawberry gelatos, red velvet macaroons, white chocolates, red roses and pink balloons. It will be another roller coaster ride, so we'll have to stand with our choice.
Because love, is a choice.

"Fall in Love. Stay in Love. And it will decide everything." - Fr. Pedro Arrupe, SJ #Love #StartingOverAgain

Love, like no other.

When Jesus died for us, it was love like no other. Even before that, when God decided to give us His son, it was truly love, like no other.

I guess God showed this to us a long time ago so that when we live our lives, we’ll love the same way.

Nowadays, people love just like any other; the kind of love that happens in a click and vanishes in a click, that love you’d realize, was no way special, was no way hard-earned. It’s sad when I hear friends or even celebrity couples splitting up in a snap. All the more when I learn that they’re exchanging partners within their circle of friends; when they treat relationship, as a mix and match of clothes in their closet.

I don’t live a perfect life. I don’t live a sin-free life but I know for a fact then we love, we must love like no other.

Come Valentine’s Day, people would get excited about buying gifts for their loved ones; but sometimes these things just happen when it’s Valentine’s. For me, we shouldn’t wait for occasions or holidays so we could spend time with loved ones because, love? It’s an everyday kind of thing. J

For me, love is not a feeling; it’s that deliberate action of choosing to love. It’s when you choose to love that person despite of flaws and disagreements or when you meet someone more gorgeous and stunning yet you still look at your partner and tell yourself, “I still have the best.”

I pray each person, every day, will love like no other - not just their partner, but their family and friends and everyone they meet in this lifetime.

Love.

Love, will always seem some kind of fairy tale. It will always seem surreal. Until you transcend the meaning of love, in one that is more than the usual intimacy (actually I don't get what I mean haha!).

Love, it's the most wondrous feeling: to love, and be loved in return. When a crush utters your name, everything goes cloud 9, so when someone you love, loves you back, it's....indescribable. :)

I believe in LOVE IS A CHOICE. It goes far beyond feelings, that feeling of kilig'ness, that temporary infatuation type of feeling. Because true love, you choose to feel it. When you find someone and know the person better, sometimes you discover things you don't like; may be his arrogant attitude or the way he teases you in front of other people becomes way too overrated. There will always be another person who'd appear to be better than the person you are with, may it be physically, emotionally or whatever aspects. The point is, you don't love the person because of his/her traits..you just, love. :)

Few years back, I asked my wu bei (we're not the perfect kinda type but we're managing things quite well well ;) why he loves me, then he can't answer..He just said, he doesn't know. (Well, I don't know if it's for kilig factor or it was real haha!) Point being, you just love..

Years from now, the traits you want with your partner might change. His usual malambing moves might change or his wavy hair might turn to grey or even slowly fall off. Whatever the traits are, those are just temporary. What matters is, what the heart says. (seeey. :p)

You just love, and then love, and love, and love, and looooove even more. ;)

Goodnight. :)